Category Archives: fight

The cotton swab that broke the camel’s back

My choices are to buy from spineless megaliths that kiss the ring and do away with fairness policies, buy 10x the amount I need from Costco or pay twice the amount from a drugstore with untenable worker conditions.

In the microcosm, I wield little influence. In the world at large, I am powerless. They only recourse I have against the choices made be the wealthiest MWM leading the Targets and Amazons is to send my money elsewhere.

So, to reward the chutzpah of Costco and Delta, I will buy in bulk and pay more for flights — because fuck you, syncophants.

All Are Welcome Here

Cleaning out the drafts folder. This one is from 2018.

What do the JCC and I have in common?

I visited the Holocaust museum in D.C. once.

One of my Brethren is Jewish. I made Challah for the Chanukah dinner he invited us to.

I ask my coworker a ton of questions because I’m fascinated with the culture.

But that’s pretty much it.

But then “Pittsburgh” happened. Some hate-filled disaster of a human being shot grandmas and grandpas at a synagogue. The anger that boiled in my heart was too much. So I Gingerly-ed and emailed the local Jewish Community Center.

“I’m so angry and want to channel that rage into something positive. Can I come volunteer? I can rake, clean, file — whatever you need me to do.”

It was probably comical and maybe a little odd to hear from some irate gentile, but they obliged and connected me to the development team who could use a warm body to stuff envelopes.

The first thing I saw when I reached the JCC was the security signage. The video recording sign. The security system signage. The controlled entrance. The armed security guard. Required ID for admittance.

A bomb threat two years ago spawned this level of vigilance. They had to get elderly people out of a swimming pool and escort them, barefoot, across a snowy parking lot to safety. Thirteen-year-olds were carrying infants. A mass exodus of 2,500 schoolkids, adults with disabilities, teachers and staff had to flee a community center because some monster, what, didn’t like Jewish people?!

Jesus fucking Christ.

As the development director gave a tour of the center and told me about the programs and services they offer to everyone, Jewish or not.

I was flabbergasted. “But, why? Why would welcome other people when they’ve been so awful?”

She simply said, “We know what it’s like to be excluded, so we make sure this a place of inclusivity. Everyone is welcome.”

And that’s why I volunteer at and give money to the JCC.

What goes around…

Cleaning out the drafts folder. This one is from 2016.

This is a story about bullies getting some good old-fashioned comeuppance.

Quarterback was born in 2015. I returned to work at Greed Financial three months later. The boss I adored had left the company and I returned to report to Jafar.

Jafar, a heavy-set woman with unnaturally red hair that she curls every day, was the VP of my area. She has the trendy glasses and wardrobe of the ad world from whence she came. She has a great laugh and an approachable nature. A fox in sheep’s clothing.

Soon enough, my role was layered and then layered again underneath Jafar. It wasn’t a problem, except my new boss was a person we’ll call Tiny Tyrant. The Tiny Tyrant was bat shit crazy. Jafar was a grown-ass bully.

Later

I started the draft in June 2019. I don’t want to relive the details necessary to paint a full picture of how callous these catty women were, so we’ll fast forward to the comeuppance.

I was looking for a new job at the same time I was talking to attorney about Jafar’s interference in my career at Greed Financial. Here’s the series of events:

  1. I started talking to an attorney
  2. I began interviewing internally and externally
  3. A hiring manager at Greed Financial told me that Jafar had interfered with me getting a job in his group.
  4. I asked HR for my file and some poor intern gave me the file they aren’t supposed to show you
  5. I had written proof of their harassment, retaliation and discrimination.
  6. They laid me off the day before I announced I was pregnant with my second child.
  7. I got a lucrative offer from a mom who was nine-months pregnant and didn’t care that I was pregnant.
  8. My attorney went for the jugular.
  9. Greed Financial settled with me.
  10. Greed Financial unceremoniously fired Tiny Tyrant and Jafar.

That’s some 1950s shit right there

The road to women’s rage is lined with mediocre white men.

The women of my grandmother’s generation were meant to graduate from high school, immediately find a husband and produce as many kids as possible (Irish Catholic). She spent all day tending to the needs of her offspring all day only to tend to the needs of her husband after work.

Then their daughters were allowed to go to college with the exception they would find a husband, quit their jobs and rear children.

Men’s lives didn’t change.

Today, my generation is meant to go to college, grind at a job to earn $0.80 on a man’s dollar, get married, crank out kids and return immediately return to work where we need to be an equal earner to our spouses. We’re doing all of that while pumping breastmilk, not sleeping, trying to be promoted, raising wildly successful and enriched children, expected to live a Pinterest lifestyle, doing all the thinking and planning for the family, taking care of elderly parents and watching every calorie and staving off all signs of aging?

And still men’s lives haven’t changed? What. The. Actual. Fuck.

The guys I went to college with — my peers — have turned into their fathers. They idolized mediocre white men (in some cases, wealthy or worse, only generationally wealthy) and have grown up to fill their manchild-sized shoes.

Today, we’re forced to choose between two decrepit mediocre white men to lead the United States. Two men that came of age before JFK was assassinated, Niel Armstrong landed on the moon and Elvis Presley became famous. They grew up watching mothers abide by gender roles and dote on their husbands every whim.

I finished Kristin Hannah’s The Four Winds last week. It’s a historical fiction novel set in the Great Depression and told through the flipping lenses of a mother and daughter. It’s the story of the societal oppression of women; men abandoning their families; and ultimately rich white men getting richer on the backs of people strategically kept in poverty.

I finished this book at the same time my employer declared war on women. Or more palatable to him, the end of remote work. Semantics. A 61yo man on a modern-day throne decided to fuck all the women in one fell swoop.

It was — as my colleague put it so eloquently — as if a tornado was put in a blender with a grenade and the CEO hurdled it at us.

Mediocre white men can fuck right off.